And here’s a response to that:
Men rape women more often than women rape men => women are justified to be on their guard when in the presence of men in particular => men should be extra-careful when talking to women…
Schrodinger’s black assaulter:
There are more African Americans in jail than white people, even though only 12,6% of the US population is African American => white people are justified to be on their guard when in presence of African Americans in particular => African Americans should be extra-careful when talking to white people…
Yes, yes indeed. It is incumbent upon all brutish males to go to all possible lengths to avoid frightening these tremulous flowers. A tall order, given that they are so easily frightened.
Like this bloke:
So I learned this trick. Cross the street about a block back and “pass” the lady that way. Same with a potential head-on encounter. If you see a woman walking towards you in the middle of the night on a lonely urban street, my practice in those days was to cross the street to not stress her out.
How well-trained and polite! How … civil. No doubt he would never enter an elevator with a lone woman in it, or drink from their water-fountains.
The thing that makes it so difficult not to drag the comparison to racism into it is that is precisely, precisely this sort of reasoning that resulted in “reckless eyeballing” laws in the american south. The white women were afraid, afraid of black men. Genuinely terrified. And the fact that they had carefully cultivated these fears by telling stories to one another? I can’t help being remiinded of my favourite analogy.
I think of it every time I hear that statistic “One in six women are sexually assaulted at some time in their lives”, followed by “and therefore they are right to be afraid of being raped”. Never mind that sexual assault is not quite the same thing as rape.
But why oh why do we males take this all so personally? I can’t hear that without doubting the vaunted empathic powers of womankind. We feel accused and defensive when someone makes blanket statements about men for exactly the same reason that you feel accused and defensive when someone makes blanket statements about women.
Because “and therefore they are right to be afraid of being raped” necessarily means “and therefore they are right to be afraid of being raped by you“. Being then told “hey, nothing personal, and you have no right to feel defensive about it” is just icing on the cake.
TAM 9 will be hilarious.
I wonder how many geeks will wake up and see that these “skeptics” and “rational” groups are – same as everywhere else – a spectacle of women mobbing the alpha males and complaining that there are so few “good men”. Starfuckers all. Meanwhile, any non-alpha male who approaches a girl is “threatening” and “a creep” and “a potential rapist”.
Nothing would amuse me more than the guys – who, lets face it, form the bulk of the skeptical community – treating these people as they ask. I envisage a bubble of empty seats around each skepchick, people politely leaving the room when one of ’em walks in: “Hey, I wouldn’t want to accidentally frighten her.”
But I’m just bitter.